We who experienced chronic childhood trauma learned, as children, to disconnect as a form of mental and emotional self-protection. The limbic brain (the primitive part of the brain wired for survival) signals fight, flight or freeze when it encounters a threat to safety. Since we did not have the option to run away (flight) or physically protect ourself (fight), our only option was to shut down (freeze) the wounded parts of ourself. These sequestered, traumatized child parts are the impetus to our inexplicable triggers. What the subconscious chooses to suppress becomes an obstacle to clarity. But it is clarity which liberates us from the effects of childhood trauma which continues to haunt us in our adult life.
Adults wrestling with the lingering effects of chronic childhood trauma often feel they are living on the periphery of life, happiness and, sometimes, even sanity. Struggling to comprehend how and why “normal” people function as they do, only increases their sorrow, anger, frustration and confusion. They consistently experience varying degrees of being disconnected from those in their familial, social and professional circles; worst of all, they exist in an inescapable limbo where they are disconnected from themselves. They know something is awry, but they can never quite seem to identify exactly what that elusive something is.
I know what It is. I lived It. I nearly didn’t survive It. But I did. It is because of my willingness to keep going no matter how excruciating (and often exhilerating!) the journey that I am prepared to help you now. The most important thing to learn as you heal is that there is NOTHING inherently wrong with you. You can remove the effects of the trauma layer by layer until you arrive at your wise and loving True Self. Your greatest challenge in life is removing all the obstacles within you to self-love, self-acceptance and self-fulfillment. I promise you this though – it is possible! I know, because I did it and so can you. In my book When the Monster Under Your Bed is You is the Childhood Trauma Recovery Program for Adults (264 pages) and the accompanying Workbook (122 pages). To be published Fall 2016. Please subscribe to receive notification when it is available.
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Copyright ©2014 Josephine Faulk, MPH (Excerpt from When the Monster Under Your Bed is You by Josephine Faulk,MPH. To be published Fall of 2016)